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"It's not real" -- It sure as heck feels real. So real it IS my reality on a daily basis.

"It's just an excuse to get out of doing things that other people have to" -- I'd love to do thing other people are doing, and I'd relish in being happy when I do so.

"You're just a little sad, you'll get over it" -- Depression isn't just 'feeling sad sometimes'... it's feeling sad ALL the time for what seems like no reason at all.

"Just grow up! Everyone is depressed, you just have to deal with it like everyone else!" -- Stop using everyone else to justify your insensitivity to other people's conditions (also, most of the people suffering from depression are adults, you don't get much more 'grown up' than adult).

"You're not suffering from anything, you're just lazy, ungrateful, and being silly" -- Ok, because obviously I LOVE feeling miserable, worthless, and stupid all the time...who wouldn't...?

"Stop using that as an excuse to not do anything." -- If I could manage to do something about this, I would.

"All young people go through that phase, it'll pass" -- and when it doesn't?

"You have everything catered to you, what do you have to be depressed about?!" -- I can't imagine.

"Stop trying to get pity by acting all hum-glum all the time! If you 'act' happy you'll BE happy! -- Because every role an actress plays is who she is, right?


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95% of the people you ask about depression will classify it as a mental condition which can be cured, treated, or even avoided given the right circumstances.

                                                                         The other 5% will tell you what it is from experience.


Depression isn't an excuse to give up. It's a cause and reason for someone to stay in the shadows, watch the world pass, hoping people around you won't notice the tears in your eyes or the marks on your arms. It's a ripple effect from something that happened to someone, something that caused them pain and suffering.
Something they fear they cannot share with the world, even the part of the world which cares for them.

Depression isn't just a sad feeling, it's a broken feeling. Nothing you do goes right, everything you touch fades, and you are the worse human being on the planet feeling.

It's not a fad.
It's not a trend.
It's not a crutch.
It's not an excuse.
Depression is real, please stop pretending it's not.


To those who will turn a blind eye because it doesn't effect them or because to them someone depressed is just someone who is weak-- who doesn't want to see the good in life or put a smile on their face regardless of their circumstances... If it were you, would you think different?
Would you turn a blind eye then?
Could you walk away from someone crying from suffering and internal pain, even when there is no blood showing the wounds?


Not all wounds carry visible scars... and even then do, not all of them are skin deep.




I want you to (today or tomorrow) step up to someone you love/care about-- someone you think may be suffering from depression-- and I want you to reach out to them. To hug them, to tell them you understand even when you don't. Be that one voice amid the naysayers that shows them there's still good in this world.
Show them you know their depression isn't just a ruse, an excuse, or a farce to attention.
Remind them of how wonderful they are, how much they mean to you and to the world. Hold them tight to you and tell them you love them no matter what.
Look past the scars, the tears, and the broken pieces and try to help them rebuild themselves by being the glue that puts them back together.
Thank you~

-Kato
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CrypticMachine Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2014  Student General Artist
This is an old journal but,It's true depression really hurts.I don't choose to be depressed.I just am.Getting better is easier said then done.It really isn't as easy as some may think.Healing a broken piece of myself takes time.

I am slowly getting better though.Meditation,listening to music,drawing and exercise helps.Also trying to think more positive...Having a pet can help with that as well.Thanks for taking the time to write this.It needed to be said.
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MariaKitsune Featured By Owner Oct 3, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I've always been told that and I tried to explain to them it isn't easy to get it over with and face another pointless day. If it were, I wouldn't have been feeling this way from the very start.
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xX-Vortexis-Xx Featured By Owner Jul 30, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Don't know if it's depression, but I feel depressed all the time, and everyday I'm so exhausted. I must put all my energy just to be able to be able to "support" the day.
Want to cry everyday and have suicidal thought more than once a week...
I tried to seek help and see a doctor, but he told me he didn't "had time"... So I lose faith...
I searched many years to try to know what I have. With no success......
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melaniewontwakeup Featured By Owner May 25, 2014
I feel like depression can't be helped by a person. Or maybe I haven't found that person. I need a nap.
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Karategirl2012 Featured By Owner Dec 29, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I suffered MUCH depression when I watched too much anime.
Please don't switch to anime.  It won't help XD 
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kaia2cool Featured By Owner Jan 17, 2014  Student Artist
That isn't depression. You are ruining the meaning of this piece of work. 
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Karategirl2012 Featured By Owner Jan 17, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
THAT IS DEPRESSION.  you just don't UNDERSTAND my feelings.
hurrrr
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BrittneyXZayn Featured By Owner Dec 20, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist

It's a cause and reason for someone to stay in the shadows, watch the world pass, hoping people around you won't notice the tears in your eyes or the marks on your arms.

 

I left at that.

You need to see someone if you are upset FOR NO REASON. If you're being bullied, yeah, I understand that, but sad for no reason is insane.

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NinjaKato Featured By Owner Dec 20, 2013
It's advised that anyone seek help if they think they may have depression, if only to see if it's depression or just stress (which can cause symptoms similar to depression but they don't linger once the stressful situation is curbed). 
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BrittneyXZayn Featured By Owner Dec 20, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist

Mmkay

 

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MarianaFuzaro Featured By Owner Dec 18, 2013  Professional General Artist
Sometimes it's not really ignorance, it's religious (or moralist) dogma. Some religions say depression is a sin, or a demon, or lack of faith. Since this kind of people are unable or unwilling to reason, the only thing to do is to stay away from them. I simply refuse to "be cool" or respect who doesn't respect me. I treat these people as coldly as possible.
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FiresprayMando Featured By Owner Nov 25, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
This is so true. I love what you write...
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DeLoverly Featured By Owner Apr 17, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Awww, sweet <3 All of this is so true!
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Fireheartwolfo Featured By Owner Apr 13, 2013
Thank you. People don't know how hard it is.
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TheIcey-Love Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Ive gotten some of those lines thrown at me. :/ This post kato.... :) <3
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Angel-Tanya Featured By Owner Mar 16, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
<3
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Shadow-of-the-Wolves Featured By Owner Mar 15, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I understand this post so well... The closest person to me has depression, and I've seen his goods and bads. It's a real deal, nothing to play with or just call "lazyness", "pretence" or "sillyness". Some people might not know how much it hurts.
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Seolhe Featured By Owner Mar 15, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
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DamonLSalvatore Featured By Owner Mar 15, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Who commonly gets that reaction?:
"You have everything catered to you, what do you have to be depressed about?!"
Because I'll trade lives with whoever you are in a heartbeat.

Are we talking manservants here? Billions of dollars?
I will end your depression if you have any of that,
just so long as you share.
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BlackShadow6202 Featured By Owner Jan 7, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Maybe someone higher up in class? OR it could be coming from someone not as privileged?

Or someone just being a jerk? -_- People can be weird and cruel sometimes...
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Rohavon Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thank you for posting this. ;-; <3
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Nuzrok Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013
Wow this is really a smart writing on depression. I assume everyone with it can relate, (sorry if I'm assuming and just using some sort of a stereotype...) This is truly beautiful in a sad but still truthful way.
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panther-star Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
This is so motivational! I love it! It sounds PERFECT with a great opening, amazing evidence, and a perfect ending. :D If you're depressed, I feel so bad for you. D:
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luckymewpony Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013
Exactly how I feel. Too top it off, whenever I ask someone to help me they yell at me or say nobody cares.
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Charleywren Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I don't have straight up depression, but something called disthymia. It's a mental condition where I am literally unable to give a damn. I can't recognize or express my feelings very well at all. It's not that I'm sad or worthless, just supremely cynical and emotionally dead and monotone. I drive people away because they think I don't care, when In reality, I CAN'T care. I get where you're coming from, most definitely. People think oh well you're so lucky you'll never get hurt. I'd rather feel anything than be dead like I am.
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LeQuaz Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013
I'm often depressed and just...furious, for no reason I can see, except for being adopted, but I can't remember what happened because I was little. I have many good friends and plenty of free time, so I often berate myself for being depressed.

I tell myself to shut up, because we all get depressed.

I don't know.
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2parky Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
It's a shame how many people don't understand. People who think that it's something you can get over easily. It's a shame I can't to more to help them except be there for them, and tell them I don't plan on leaving them.

I'm not speaking from experience, just a point of view.
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AtlantianOwl Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013  Student General Artist
i have severe depression followed by a bad case of Bipolar disorder, this was great to read, may i share it?
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PokeRose Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I'm not diagnosed with depression, but I am depressed a lot... I have issues, and I get crap for it. People are not sensitive where they should be an oversensitive where they shouldn't... :( It sucks...
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NekoNinja13 Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013
feel free to judge me on what i say, but it also really sucks if you are bipolar or have mood swaps because then you can't even tell if you need help or not. Or when the depression comes in waves or bursts. but even if what i said is wrong or makes no sense i do understand what if feels like and i hope i would be able to get over my social anxeities and shyness to help someone
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McAlli Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
"He was a broken branch grafted onto a different family tree. Adopted. Not because his parents opted for a different destiny. He was three when he became a mixed drink of one part left alone, two parts tragedy. Started therapy in eighth grade. Had a personality made up of tests and pills. Lived like the uphills were mountains and the downhills were cliffs. Four-fifths suicidal, a tidal-wave of anti-depressants, and an adolescence of being called "popper." One part because of the pills, ninety-nine parts because of the cruelty. He tried to kill himself in grade ten when a kid who could still go home to mom and dad had the audacity to tell him "Get over it". As if depression is something that can be remedied by anything found in the contents of a first aid kit. To this day, he is a stick of TNT lit from both ends; can describe to you in detail the way the sky bends in the moment before it's about to fall. And despite an army of friends who call him an inspiration, he remains a conversation piece for people who can't understand...sometimes, becoming drug free has less to do with addiction, and more to do with sanity."

--To This Day, Shane Koyczan
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AtlantianOwl Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013  Student General Artist
ah yes, Shane is certainly a hero of mine, have been watching his stuff before that video came out and people would say "whose that" when i talked about him but now they all know. everyone should live by his words.
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McAlli Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
It's just what I was reminded of when Ninja posted this up~
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AtlantianOwl Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013  Student General Artist
same here, that came to mind first ya know?
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McAlli Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
The piece of the video that came with that quote is one of the most powerful things I've ever seen.
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AtlantianOwl Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013  Student General Artist
yes oh yes
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McAlli Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
And from a person who suffers from it, it's good to know that there's a fight for people to realize that Depression is a real thing and it's not a choice.
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AtlantianOwl Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013  Student General Artist
exactly, i feel that same way, i have it too
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ThalonsLover Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I've been there and I'm still there. I feel you. Trust me. It sucks being upset over absolutely nothing! Or sometimes, it's just the little shit that makes you go off and feel horrible, like you're the most useless person in the world. It doesn't help that I have CF and literally can't work or I'll loose my healthcare, which would just spiral down from there. Not to mention that I do everything I'm supposed to do and I still get sick and end up in the hospital. There are days where not only do I feel useless, I am useless. Compound that with people who don't truly understand either problem, (I'm just a lazy piece of white trash mooching off the system with no real reason I can't work), or as you have listed, depression isn't real and you can just "get over it". They don't realize that once you slip into it, it's damn hard to get yourself out of the dumps. It really does affect your day to day life and it makes it impossible to communicate with others properly or find motivation to take care of yourself. I've gone for months without taking care of anything except the small stuff like feeding myself because I just don't feel like it's worth it. Like there's absolutely no point in life.

I've been on medicine before for it but it doesn't help. In fact, it made it ten times worse so I stopped taking it. I've started finding things that I can do when I feel an onset, like taking a long, warm bath and listening to some soothing music. Honestly, sometimes the best way I've found to deal is just to let myself have the breakdown and cry it all out and break some stuff. Not important stuff, but small things I'm going to throw out anyway. Bottling it up seems to make it worse for me. Not to mention it makes me angry and I already have anger issues. It makes for a real mess, let me tell you. Until someone has been there and knows what it's like to hate yourself and feel like your existence is pointless on a regular basis for no real reason other than your mind is telling you everything is terrible, they won't understand how it can affect your whole life or your work. Thank goodness for those who do understand. If it weren't for them, I wouldn't be here right now.
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xX-Flash-Xx Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013  Hobbyist
Wow, that's a great journal. It shows that there are people feeling the same.

But when I were finished reading this, I still didn't find a solution to get out of it...
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awkwaard Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
"I get depressed sometimes, no big deal." or
"I'm feeling depressed today."

I don't think people understand that it's not a temporary feeling?

Not to mention the fact that you can more than definitely have clinical depression and not even be sad all of the time.

I appreciate this journal.
And to those that don't understand depression or don't see how it affects people negatively in their every day life, be grateful.
It literally takes being in those shoes to understand, and it's a place I wouldn't wish upon anyone.
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Stariussaphree Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013
Oh, but it does. Its difficult as sh*t to get out of it completely too. Most don't. And its something that creeps up on you and you don't even realize it till it has a complete hold on you. Try to think of it as having a real big heavy weight on you every hour of every day. But on the mind instead of the body. Logic and reason are just gone. Its like a poison. Gosh, there's so many ways to describe it. But in all honesty you can only understand it if you experience it yourself.
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GinBearHound Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013
I don't see why depression is such a problem?
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AmberfaII-Cat Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
you don't get it..
people have depression. LOTS of people.
and i have depression.
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GinBearHound Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013
Your reply wasn't helpful at all .
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GinBearHound Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013
As in how does it effect everyday life and doing your job?
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AtlantianOwl Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013  Student General Artist
i am not entirely sure how to describe it so it makes sense. i have severe depression, and what i feel everyday is sadness.

letme start from how the mind works, i am not good at explaining so i will link you to maslow's hierarchy of needs.

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this picture shows what you need enable to function

it starts with the basics " food, water, shelter, warmth", now as long as you have those needs you can focus on feeling safe.

now thats where the problem comes in with depression, the safety section includes safety, stability, and freedom of fear. well with depression, you don't feel stability. if you don't feel that stability than you won't focus on or feel any of the above needs in the hierarchy. this pretty much means you wont feel Love, self-esteem, self-actualization. and that will lead to not being able to function in normal life.

i hope that made sense and all, im bad at explaining. ;;
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GinBearHound Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013
Why can't you feel love & belonging when you're scared and unstable?
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AtlantianOwl Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013  Student General Artist
It has to do with the chemicals in the brain being off balanced.
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NinjaKato Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013
Depression isn't a problem, it's a condition, and it's not just one someone can get over by just pretending it doesn't exist or that it's just a phase. For some people yes, it's easier to get past or through and soon they can go back to being happy either with medicinal help or mental help. For others it's not that simple or easy. Depression isn't just being sad or feeling depressed. When you have actual depression it can actually be a very debilitating and horrible situation.
Try actually having it or asking people who do and you'll find out why it can cause problems.

As for how it affects a person's life or their job is just as any condition would, especially one that is associated with the brain/mind which controls everything your body does.
Hope this makes sense.
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