"It's just an excuse to get out of doing things that other people have to" -- I'd love to do thing other people are doing, and I'd relish in being happy when I do so.
"You're just a little sad, you'll get over it" -- Depression isn't just 'feeling sad sometimes'... it's feeling sad ALL the time for what seems like no reason at all.
"Just grow up! Everyone is depressed, you just have to deal with it like everyone else!" -- Stop using everyone else to justify your insensitivity to other people's conditions (also, most of the people suffering from depression are adults, you don't get much more 'grown up' than adult).
"You're not suffering from anything, you're just lazy, ungrateful, and being silly" -- Ok, because obviously I LOVE feeling miserable, worthless, and stupid all the time...who wouldn't...?
"Stop using that as an excuse to not do anything." -- If I could manage to do something about this, I would.
"All young people go through that phase, it'll pass" -- and when it doesn't?
"You have everything catered to you, what do you have to be depressed about?!" -- I can't imagine.
"Stop trying to get pity by acting all hum-glum all the time! If you 'act' happy you'll BE happy! -- Because every role an actress plays is who she is, right?
95% of the people you ask about depression will classify it as a mental condition which can be cured, treated, or even avoided given the right circumstances.
The other 5% will tell you what it is from experience.
Depression isn't an excuse to give up. It's a cause and reason for someone to stay in the shadows, watch the world pass, hoping people around you won't notice the tears in your eyes or the marks on your arms. It's a ripple effect from something that happened to someone, something that caused them pain and suffering.
Something they fear they cannot share with the world, even the part of the world which cares for them.
Depression isn't just a sad feeling, it's a broken feeling. Nothing you do goes right, everything you touch fades, and you are the worse human being on the planet feeling.
It's not a fad.
It's not a trend.
It's not a crutch.
It's not an excuse.
Depression is real, please stop pretending it's not.
To those who will turn a blind eye because it doesn't effect them or because to them someone depressed is just someone who is weak-- who doesn't want to see the good in life or put a smile on their face regardless of their circumstances... If it were you, would you think different?
Would you turn a blind eye then?
Could you walk away from someone crying from suffering and internal pain, even when there is no blood showing the wounds?
Not all wounds carry visible scars... and even then do, not all of them are skin deep.
I want you to (today or tomorrow) step up to someone you love/care about-- someone you think may be suffering from depression-- and I want you to reach out to them. To hug them, to tell them you understand even when you don't. Be that one voice amid the naysayers that shows them there's still good in this world.
Show them you know their depression isn't just a ruse, an excuse, or a farce to attention.
Remind them of how wonderful they are, how much they mean to you and to the world. Hold them tight to you and tell them you love them no matter what.
Look past the scars, the tears, and the broken pieces and try to help them rebuild themselves by being the glue that puts them back together.
It annoys the fuck out of me when they say that.
I am slowly getting better though.Meditation,listening to music,drawing and exercise helps.Also trying to think more positive...Having a pet can help with that as well.Thanks for taking the time to write this.It needed to be said.
Want to cry everyday and have suicidal thought more than once a week...
I tried to seek help and see a doctor, but he told me he didn't "had time"... So I lose faith...
I searched many years to try to know what I have. With no success......
It's a cause and reason for someone to stay in the shadows, watch the world pass, hoping people around you won't notice the tears in your eyes or the marks on your arms.
I left at that.
You need to see someone if you are upset FOR NO REASON. If you're being bullied, yeah, I understand that, but sad for no reason is insane.
"You have everything catered to you, what do you have to be depressed about?!"
Because I'll trade lives with whoever you are in a heartbeat.
Are we talking manservants here? Billions of dollars?
I will end your depression if you have any of that,
just so long as you share.
Or someone just being a jerk? -_- People can be weird and cruel sometimes...
I tell myself to shut up, because we all get depressed.
I don't know.
I'm not speaking from experience, just a point of view.
--To This Day, Shane Koyczan
I've been on medicine before for it but it doesn't help. In fact, it made it ten times worse so I stopped taking it. I've started finding things that I can do when I feel an onset, like taking a long, warm bath and listening to some soothing music. Honestly, sometimes the best way I've found to deal is just to let myself have the breakdown and cry it all out and break some stuff. Not important stuff, but small things I'm going to throw out anyway. Bottling it up seems to make it worse for me. Not to mention it makes me angry and I already have anger issues. It makes for a real mess, let me tell you. Until someone has been there and knows what it's like to hate yourself and feel like your existence is pointless on a regular basis for no real reason other than your mind is telling you everything is terrible, they won't understand how it can affect your whole life or your work. Thank goodness for those who do understand. If it weren't for them, I wouldn't be here right now.
But when I were finished reading this, I still didn't find a solution to get out of it...
"I'm feeling depressed today."
I don't think people understand that it's not a temporary feeling?
Not to mention the fact that you can more than definitely have clinical depression and not even be sad all of the time.
I appreciate this journal.
And to those that don't understand depression or don't see how it affects people negatively in their every day life, be grateful.
It literally takes being in those shoes to understand, and it's a place I wouldn't wish upon anyone.
people have depression. LOTS of people.
and i have depression.
letme start from how the mind works, i am not good at explaining so i will link you to maslow's hierarchy of needs.
this picture shows what you need enable to function
it starts with the basics " food, water, shelter, warmth", now as long as you have those needs you can focus on feeling safe.
now thats where the problem comes in with depression, the safety section includes safety, stability, and freedom of fear. well with depression, you don't feel stability. if you don't feel that stability than you won't focus on or feel any of the above needs in the hierarchy. this pretty much means you wont feel Love, self-esteem, self-actualization. and that will lead to not being able to function in normal life.
i hope that made sense and all, im bad at explaining. ;;